Friday, August 31, 2012

A little I know after almost a week in Uganda


  • that when you go to the slums, there are kids playing in an empty lot that would be condemned in the states but these children playing there are full of smiles and laughter. And when you are there you play with kids like ring-around-the-rosy or lift them up in the air as high as you can until your arms hurt and you feel well that you helped ever so little.
  • that a restaurant is literally a small room with a couple empty chairs, old sofa and a table or two.  Their are no signs, no menus - in my past life I would never have entered but now we sit down and eat.
  • that when we go out I have only twice seen another Mzungu (white person) and the children all call out "Mzungu, Mzungu."  This is a strange and a sometimes overwhelming experience: the fact that we are different, there is a name for our difference and you hear it all the time.
  • that when we went to the school, there are so many surface differences like no carpeting, no glass in the windows, no running water, no electricity, no flush toilets but when you look harder and under that surface at a classroom you see drawings of the maturity stages of a fly, how wings on an airplane work and other teachings that were done with the intent for learning just like you would see in an American classrooms.
  • that when I sat in a class of five grown men that are giving up almost a year of their lives and a significant amount financially to learn to farm, that I saw such eagerness and determination.  They wanted to learn and even though the class was in English, a second language for each of them, they were trying so hard to learn a better way for themselves and their families.
  • that babies are left, that children can be given up in hopes that some non-profit can give them a better life than a parent can.  What a terrible, heart-breaking choice to have to make. 
  • that the giving of just money has created something that just doesn't work, that can't be sustained.  I am learning that we have to focus on given something else instead of just money -- maybe if we tried giving our hearts?
  • that our children just continue to amaze me with their adapting, accepting and enjoying a different everything.
  • that there is a great deal of love here and the people of CLD have so much to offer and teach.
  • that I know really so little and that there is so much to learn but for now I'm going to focus on giving my heart and being a friend and seeing where that leads...
Troy



Sunday, August 26, 2012

One Week In

We have officially made it a week.  This is by far, the most amazing and challenging week that I've had in my life in a long time now.  Not really sure I have anything to compare it to.....let me try to describe all the crazy thoughts in my head right now.  It is Sunday, and we returned to Arusha, Tanzania today from our safari.  

A few facts first.  We had two quick days in Uganda and then on Wednesday flew into Mt. Kilimanjaro airport.  A driver picked us up and drove us into Arusha where we stayed in a lovely hotel Mount Meru the first evening and met our safari guide.  We drove out on Thursday morning in our Toyota land cruiser to begin our adventure.  We visited three different national parks during the next three days, spending basically a day in each.  First, we drove about an hour to Lake Manyara for our first day of safari.  It was the smallest of all the parks, and an "appetizer" safari according to our guide.  It had a lot of lush vegetation, so was fun to try and spot all the animals within the trees and different areas.  It felt almost like a dream to see giraffes, elephants, monkeys and more right in front of us!  The excitement on the kids face was priceless, and to be honest I felt like a kid, wondering if we were actually seeing this stuff!  Each day we would safari for about five to six hours, breaking for lunch at a spot inside the park, with a lunchbox that the hotel had packed for us.  The kids thought the lunch boxes were great fun and were always curious to see what was inside for the day that was a new adventure in food for them to try.  I have decided I have quite a bit of things I could learn from my kids, as by today, I was really just hoping to open that lunchbox and see a bag of Doritos and a chocolate chip cookie!  

Anyway, our accommodations for the first two evenings of our safari days was a tented camp.  It was a bit scary each day as our guide turned off the road towards wherever we were staying.  Keep in mind we had just stayed at a luxury hotel the night before and now the next evening we are turning onto a typical African dirt road that looks like slums along the way.  But, it turned out okay.  Not 5 star by any means, but very rustic and a unique experience to have monkeys and mongoose right outside your tent door.  One thing we have discovered is that people must not travel in Africa very often with their children, as each place we stayed they had to put us in two separate rooms as the rooms only had one large king or two twins.  So, the kids and I opted to "get cozy" and talk dad into us all cramming into one of our tented rooms with the king bed.  We just felt a bit safer.  As we were staying in a local area called Mosquito River, it also made at least me a bit more nervous about the potential for mosquito issues.  So, since we kind of feel continually unclean here anyway, we coated ourselves with Deet that evening on our way to dinner.  But, a pleasant surprise was more hot water in our shower later to be able to get rid of the Deet smell before climbing into our mosquito netted bed for the night.  

Day 2 safari took us to Tarrangarie National Park.  It was about another hour drive.  The most amazing thing to process on that drive was how the Maasai tribe lives.  I will now have to read more about them, but this is a main area where they live.  They are a wandering people known for their way of life with nature and for herding livestock.  All along the highway you would look out onto the plains and see a herd of goats or cattle just grazing.  You then knew to look closer and you would see typically two Maasai children that were watching the herd.  These children often looked as young or younger than Henry, with either 
then one older child or adult.  They are easy to spot as they wear colorful tribal cloth for clothing.  It just made me wander what this life is like and how they endure it.  How many miles they walk in their lifetimes and how they know when to go home.  What do they do if something happens and they are miles away from their hut village?  I cannot even imagine.  The boys go to school I guess, although I saw no schools in sight, and the government is trying to encourage the girls to go also, but there is resistance, as a family receives a certain 
number of head of livestock when they offer their daughter to marry around age 15.  Their 
prestige is judged by the total number in their herd.  

Anyway, it was another amazing day of animals.  Incredible elephants and zebras.  This park was more open and plains like, not as much vegetation.  The highlight of the day was after lunch (at which a monkey stole Avery's mango juice box right from the picnic table) when our guide started racing in the jeep somewhere after talking on the radio.  We knew it must be something exciting, and it was.  We saw a cheetah and her baby.  

That night we returned to the same tented camp and then headed. Out the next morning for our final safari day.  We were headed to the Ngorongoro Crater.  Can't even really explain it.  You might just be better off googling it.  Our guide John had warned us it was going to be much colder as we drove up into the mountains to e rim of the crater, which I think he said was about 7,000 feet.  It is hard to keep all these conversions straight between shillings, kilometers, kilograms, Celsius, etc.  It was was an hour drive up to the rim of the crater, and then another hour drive down into the crater floor.  These drives are definitely not for the weak in stomach. It was basically like an hour long roller coaster ride.  I am still amazed none of us got sick throughout these days, especially considering our changes in diet that were going on simultaneously.  

The crater was amazing.  More animals yet that we hadn't seen.  Started off with some lions that were just absolutely majestic.  Then, the other highlight of the day, even though it was from afar, was to see a black rhino.  Supposedly this is very rare as 80% of people coming to the crater are coming to try and see a black rhino, which is one of the big 5, but only about 20% do, so we were in that lucky 20% I guess.  Kids were very psyched, as was our guide.  The animal that eluded us was the leopard, which our guide had told us we only had about a 1% chance of seeing as they hide in all the vegetation.  And during the three days, Henry got his bird fix seeing an amazing number of species of birds which our guide could always tell us what they were so we could look them up in his field book.  Overall, for 3 days of safari, when many people do 14 days, we saw an incredible amount of animals and felt like it was definitely one of those once in a lifetime experiences, that will unfortunately make going to the zoo never the same for us again.  

After our last safari day, we stayed at Rhino Lodge outside the rim of the crater.  It was more like a hotel with actual rooms, but very rustic and we again all crammed into one of our two rooms.  The electricity is only on ther from 6 - 9 am and 5 - 9 pm, so we had a wood stove in our room for heat.  It was also very unique to have at least 50 water buffalo just grazing on the property after dusk off the deck by the restaurant.  The kids did not get to experience elephants just walking by our back patio though, as they warned us may happen.  

That brings us to today, which was really just travel back to Arusha where we are spending tomorrow also as there are no flights from Tanzania back to Entebbe on Mondays, so we will fly back on Tuesday.  For tonight, we just said goodbye to our guide, skyped family and enjoyed a luxury hotel again and didn't venture out on our own for dinner, and instead just opted for a nice dinner in the hotel restaurant. It was definitely what I needed, as it was the most American like meal I've had to this point.  My stomach has been trying to adjust and I haven't been willing to make many risky eating choices.  The whole family has been enjoying some Pepto tabs these last few days which thank goodness seem to do the trick.  

Okay, I mentioned just starting with some facts and now I have gotten very carried away rambling about them and even probably left out about half.  Now going to just briefly comment on where my thoughts are.  Luckily I ended the day a much different place than I started.  I had a lot of downtime on the drive to just think and that can get me into trouble.  I was having a day when the worry was trying to consume me.  Worry that I am going to get sick from the food because the standard of cooking and general hygiene here is so minimal, worrying that I am going to get malaria because I got a few mosquito bites in the last couple of days, and just general worry about what we have gotten ourselves into.  But, then I think God answered some prayers and brought me a nice bed and meal tonight just when I needed just a bit of normalcy to face tomorrow with.  

These past few days I have just been struggling with the incredible juxtaposition of images I have been experiencing.  We have spent an amazing week seeing some of the most beautiful landscape and animals that God has created, but then I am really struggling with the dirtiness and despair that seems all around such beauty.  The constant smell of burning, either to cook, or to burn huge piles of trash.  Trash just everywhere you look, and people living amongst it.  Visiting local markets with food just out in the open in such filthy conditions that people are buying to feed their families.  I have yet to see a normal house (other than the one we live in) that is more than a hut either built out of sticks, grass or crumbling cement blocks.  I know that my perspective is not by any means complete after just one short week, but it just makes me question how we all live in the same world, yet are living such completely unequal lives.  I know there is poverty all over the world, it just seems so commonplace here.  I need to research more on what percent of the local population is living like this, because it is absolutely heartbreaking to me.  Troy and I were talking tonight about how it seems like there should be a middle ground somewhere.  So many of us have       so much excess in our lives and these people have so little.  So many people in the world are working towards equal access to basic human needs like food, clean water and shelter, but then I see what I have witnessed these past few days and I wonder if we are making any progress?

Way too big of questions to tackle this late, but will continue to process, and trust that God will provide a renewed sense of spirit when it is needed, just like he did for me today.  I believe that is how many of these people endure their daily lives.  
    

Wednesday, August 22, 2012

Arrival and Adjustment

Finally trying to take a few minutes to write a few thoughts on our arrival in Africa.  My apologies as it won't be as long winded or detailed as I usually am as all we have with us the next few days is the iPad and I am a terribly slow typer on it and plus suffering from lack of sleep since we arrived.  But, most importantly, we have arrived safely as did our luggage.  The hardest part was the second 8 hour flight (after a 9 hour layover in London) into Uganda.  We flew in at 7:45 am local time and we had to make it through a marathon day to try and adjust to the time difference and avoid jet lag.  Leigh from CLD picked us up at the airport and we took a taxi that CLD owns back to the house after they tied all our luggage to the top.  Henry immediately learned a new lesson that seatbelts aren't used in Uganda as he tried putting his on that was nonexistent.  It was a rough hour drive on bumpy roads with inense traffic, tough smells and just visual culture shock.  Avery already had an upset stomach from so much traveling and that was the last straw, so I tried to be very nonchalant as she threw up into an extra shirt I had.

But, we made it and they told us they were going to just throw us into the mix of things immediately, so we unloaded our suitcases and then started working with about 16 kids from the school that they were doing a week long summer camp with to try and help them one on one and give them new experiences.  Troy and I had a group of 4 kids to work with, so we tutored for a couple of hours and then we had a lunch break.  We walked to lunch in the village and it was an experience to say the least.  How you would know it was a restaurant in the first place was our question.  It was just a small shed with a curtain hanging in front.  But, the CLD staff had been there and no one had gotten sick from the food, which we later learned is the main criteria for picking where to eat.  Kids were troopers as we were just baptized by fire on Day 1.

After lunch they do activities with the kids, so we did crafts and got to know them a bit more.  Around 5, camp was over, so we finally had a few minutes to regroup and just try to sort through our luggage and how to arrange our room, and put mosquito nets on our beds so we could hopefully get some rest at some point that night. Then we got the call that dinner was ready and Resty the base camp manager had "Irish" ready which is potatoes.  The diet is going to be a big adjustment, and my kids have amazed me at how well they have done.  It is all starches and carbs.  The local main dishes are posho, myatoki, anc rice with various sauces, probably the most popular one being g nut, which is like a peanut sauce.  I guess there is a standard dinner menu at the house weekly which includes potatoes, rice and beans, spaghetti, and other bland starches I can't remember right now.

After dinner we just tried to find our pjs and bear through a cold bath after about 25 hours of traveling.  There is never going to be any hot water in the house.  The kids slept great, but Troy and I only managed a few hours each.

Going to be more brief about Day 2 as I'm getting tired and tired of typing on this thing.  We did summer camp again with the kids and it was out at the Thread of Life location where CLD has it's craft program for women to learn sewing and bead making.  We took public taxis there which was another adventure and it was shocking to see just how different the standard of living really is.  We had the unfortunate timing to be walking through one area where they were cleaning out the street gutters right in the middle of a huge market area, so it was challenging to see sewer waste just being thrown out in the middle of food, etc. and Troy even had the pleasant experience of getting hit with a small bit.

But, we made it and spending more time with the kids that day was worth every second of the culture shock.  They are the most resilient, happy, loving children despite of the conditions in which they live.  The highlight of the day was the kids making friends with these kids that they will be going to school with in a few short weeks.   The kids are amazed that we will be here to be their friends for 10 months are have welcomed us with such warmth.  We have already recruited Wilson and Isaiah who will be in P5 and P6 to tutor our kids in Lugandan and football/soccer and our kids will be their swimming and English coaches.

When we got back to the house, we got a brief tour from Resty, and realized to an even greater extent how modest they live.  She showed us the area outside where they cook over a fire and where they do the laundry and wash dishes.  How we have taken our conveniences for granted became very clear.

After dinner of rice and beans we then got more organized in our room, but are really hoping to settle in after we return from safari on 8/28.  We just need to get some basic things like hangers, laundry basket, etc. to begin to make it more functional and feel like home a bit.  But, as we drive and walk daily in the village it reminds us that the CLD house is pretty much 5 star and we are very lucky to be able to call it home.

Going to wrap up with that we flew to Tanzania today for our 5 day safari that begins tomorrow morning.  It is a bit odd, as we are now back in the life of luxury for a few days.  But, we are very excited to see some amazing animals.  Our guide came to our hotel tonight to meet us and showed us our safari truck and he will be taking just our family around for the next four days on this adventure amd seems incredibly nice and excited as we are.  Like I posted on FB tonight, my favorite quote of the day was from Henry.  As they were enjoying a nice, long hot bath again in our hotel, I asked them if it would be hard to go back to Uganda.  He replied, "no, because all my friends are back in Uganda,". Kids amaze and teach me every day.  As Troy and I were debriefing last night in bed for a few minutes being honest with each other if we thought it was going to be this hard, we ended up laughing about Troy being showered with sewer that day, and the kids just talking about how great it was ridng in the taxi (keep in mind this is after Avery I inaction ride involved throwing up all over!). 

Avery has been the best of all uf us journaling and sketching something each day.  We will try to find time to keep posting.  In the meantime, I have posted a few pics on FB.  These next few days we can't really post pics as we only have the iPad with us which we can't upload our camera pics too, so stay tuned for safari pics when we get back to Uganda. 

Until then, we will continue to experience each day as it comes and at this rate, our lives might just explode if the rate of learning continues at the rate it has been these fiirst few days.  It's hard to comprehend that this life may become our "normal" by the time we leave.  It has already been an amazing experience and we are only 3 days in.  Hope we are able to take you along on our journey.

Heather

Friday, August 17, 2012

Almost Time to Depart!

I thought I would just post once more before we depart tomorrow evening.  

First, we are excited to say that we have not only reached, but exceeded our fundraising support goal of $4,000.  Thanks to the amazing generosity of friends and family, our current total is $4,900! Words cannot express the deep gratitude from our entire family for all of your incredible support.  In addition to financially, we have been so humbled by the countless ways we have felt your support in these last 11 months of planning.  We could not have done it without each and every one of you.  

In these last few days, there are countless thoughts and emotions running through each of our minds, but something I wanted to do was to just think about the Top 5 things I think I will miss and at the same time, Top 5 things that I am looking forward to.  I thought it would be interesting to look at these when we return and see how things turned out in reality.  I decided I would just write them down today and then dismiss them from my mind as we had some good advice in our last Skype call with Cody from Come Let's Dance who will be meeting us at the airport in Entebbe.  He said not to be nervous, that we are going to love it, and to just throw all of our expectations out the window.  So, because I am a thinker and a planner, here are my last thoughts of what I "expect" will be the case and I look forward in just a couple of days to living the journey and experiencing what actually is.  

Top 5 Things I Will Miss
1.  My family who I love more than anything in this world (including Tally)
2.  My girlfriends who are always there for me
3.  Knowing my daily purpose and routine
4.  Cleanliness (my kids will say this is definitely true, along with anyone else who really knows me, as I wholeheartedly support the philosophy that "cleanliness is next to Godliness"
5.  The confidence and easiness of knowing how to accomplish what I want to accomplish

Top 5 Things I am Looking Forward To
1. Seeing a part of the world I have never been to and experiencing and learning from a new culture
2.  Getting away from the busyness and all the little details of our life as we know it and not knowing what each day will bring (ironically the opposite to #3 above that I will miss)
3.  A year of quality time with my family and us all becoming closer and stronger for it before our children's lives get even more busy and they grow up and move away
4.  A new perspective on how to view the world in which we live and an opportunity to live out my faith that has called me here in the first place
5.  Meeting new friends that I can continue a relationship with throughout my lifetime

Thanks to all of you from the bottom of our hearts.  We know your love and support will continue over these next 10 months and our biggest request is that you keep in touch and send us stories as well.  It makes it much easier to leave knowing all the loving family, friends and community that will be with us on our journey and here for us when we return.  We are going to try and post regularly, but if you have questions we're not addressing, please send them to us!   We'd love to try to answer them, or at least our perspective on them.  

All our love, and our next post will be from Africa!  Let the journey begin.

~Heather


Sunday, August 12, 2012

Why we are moving to Africa?


At a family wedding last weekend and talking with family many of them the same question -- WHY?  The answer is typically long but here is my short version -- click here for the full story.  To me there are the three main reasons:

1.  To Serve
Several years back, our family had one of those tough years where it seemed like a lot of challenges all came at once.  Out of that tough time we emerged with a stronger faith, stronger family and the realization of how deeply blessed we were.  That sparked in us the need to give back and as our commitments grew both time and financially we kept wanted to give back more.

2.  To Learn
We also wanted to teach our family about the world and how it lives without all of the stuff we have in the U.S.  We wanted to learn about being with people, deeper relationships as well as about another part of the world.  Most importantly we wanted our children to learn these important concepts. 

3.  We Were Called
This is probably the hardest one to explain but the set of events that happened that led one of us to saying "we should move to Africa" was definitely not all of our doing.  It was on a date night and what started as a one week in Paris ended up a year in Africa.  Wow!  It took us a while (me a lot longer to process this) but in the end the more we talked and learned about doing it the more we felt it was what we were supposed to do next.

So what started as a set of personal crisis ended up in us deciding that we were truly blessed and that we had more to give back.  The journey so far has been amazing and I can't thank all of our friends, co-workers, church families and family enough for their support and questions.  Now some final packing and in 6 days off to start the next phase of our journey.

Troy